“26 But everyone who hears these words of mine and does not put them into practice is like a foolish man who built his house on sand. 27 The rain came down, the streams rose, and the winds blew and beat against that house, and it fell with a great crash” (Matthew 7:26-27 NIV).
The man in the verse above was fine. He found a fine spot on the sand to built his fine house and live his fine life. His life was fine, maybe even good, on the surface.
Until one day “the rain came down … and the winds blew and beat against that house”. And suddenly everything that was fine “fell” and toppled into indistinguishable rubble.
When fine was hit be adversity
When fine was challenged by calamity.
When fine was pounded by trials.
Fine was destroyed, “and great was its fall” (NKJV) into ruin.
So, why would we want or choose to live a life that is fine?
But we do. Most days. When someone asks us how we are, what do we usually say? “I’m fine.”
Even when we are stressed.
Even when we are tired.
Even when we are sick.
Even when we are hurting.
Even when we are mad.
Even when we are sad.
We say “I’m fine.” But we’re not.
So, why do we pretend?
Why do we try to cover up?
Why do we deny?
Why do we lie?
We’re not fine.
Our lives are in chaos.
Our emotions are out of control.
Our thoughts are confused.
We’re not fine. And we need to have the wisdom to see it and the courage to admit it.
“God, I am not fine.”
“God, this is so not fair.”
“God, I am not going to survive this.”
“God, it is too much.”
“God, it is not enough.”
“God, I just can’t ….”
“God, it hurts beyond words.”
And until we can be honest enough to admit we are not fine, it won’t get better.
There is good news. We can bring all of our not fine – our pain, our anger, our mistakes, our excuses, our lack of faith – to God. And He promises not only to understand our struggle but also to help us get through it in one piece.
“15 For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin. 16 Let us therefore come boldly to the throne of grace, that we may obtain mercy and find grace to help in time of need” (Hebrews 4:15-16 NKJV).
We have a Father who sympathizes with our struggles and has compassion on us in our confusion. We have a Father who sees and gives mercy to us when we are tested and tried. We have a Father who never wonders at our weaknesses or falters at our feebleness of faith.
So, why would we choose to merely be fine?
It’s a waste of our time.
It’s a waste of our energy.
It’s a waste of our resources.
It will never help us.
It will never challenge us.
It will never lead us to our purpose.
But God will.
God has called us to be parrhesia (par-rhay-see’-ah) – Assured. Bold. Confident. Free. Outspoken.
And in letting go of fine, we are able to find cháris (khar’-ece) – Graciousness. Divine influence upon our heart. Acceptance. Benefit. Favor. Liberty. Thankfulness.
So, don’t continue to be fine.
Don’t live in the rubble of the collateral damage of the chaos.
Don’t live as merely a survivor who is barely alive and hardly getting by.
Don’t live weighed down with the shame of past choices.
You will miss out on God’s best for your life.
Because you allow your sin / circumstances to drag you down into hopelessness and sorrow.
Because you allow your sin / circumstances to pull you into disaster and destruction.
Because you allow your sin / circumstances to consume you with pride and self-reliance.
Choose to admit you aren’t fine and your circumstances are hard.
It’s the beginning of finding God’s strength to get through and triumph.
It’s the beginning of letting go of control and allowing God to lead (and to bless).
It’s the beginning of new possibilities and new outcomes from One who still works miracles.
It’s the way to find the life you want.
“Life … more abundantly” (John 10:10 NKJV).
“Life … in abundance [to the full, till it overflows]” (John 10:10 AMP).
“Life … in its fullest” (John 10:10 CEV, TLB).
“Far more life than before” (John 10:10 Phillips).
“Real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of” (John 10:10 MSG).
“Life … to the full” (John 10:10 NIV).
“A rich and satisfying life” (John 10:10 NLT).
So, let today be today that you choose to be more than fine. Let go of your fine and lean into He “who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine” (Ephesians 3:20 NIV) with what we willingly give Him.
Marie Fremin. 11/8/19, 1/19/20.