Letter to a Teenaged Daughter


You are a young lady on the verge of being a woman.  There are probably many things going through your mind.  You most likely act like you know so much yet feel like you know very little.  We all feel that way.  Even as adults.


Through your questions, through your confusion, through your searching, there is one truth I pray you discover.  No matter what happens to you, no matter who comes into your life, and no matter who leaves your life, there is one Person who will never leave you, never abandon you, and never turn away from you.  One Person who will never condemn you, shame you, or hurt you.  One Person who will always have your best interest at heart and want good blessings for you.


That person is God.


And as you walk into womanhood, I pray that God really impacts your life.  I pray that God gets a hold of your heart so deeply, so intimately, and so passionately that you are overcome by His love.  That His love becomes so real that it vibrates (echoes) through your thoughts, your actions, and your choices.  That His love becomes so true that you never doubt it, no matter how difficult life gets or what kind of choices you make.  That His love becomes so rooted in you that you will never be shaken, no matter what happens to you and around you.


Ephesians 3:18 is so true.  There are no limits to God’s love.  There are no boundaries to God’s affection.  There are no fences around God’s presence.  There are no ground rules to God’s grace.  His love is wide enough to accept you just as you are.  His love is long enough to last through all your days.  His love is deep enough to cover every choice you make.  And His love is high enough to encourage you to aim for His best.

Letter to a Teenaged Daughter

Everything you have been, everything you are now, and everything He has called you to be is encompassed by His love and blessed with His grace.


So I pray that you will find confident assurance in God’s love.  A steadfast trust that will keep you focused on the right things, grounded in His purposes, and confident in His care.  A resolute faith that knows He walks with you, no matter where you go, and will never forsake you.  An unshakable hope that He has great plans for you all the days of your life.


Your life can be guided by His peace.

Your life can be defined by His love.

Your life can be enhanced by His grace.


Where does it start?  Get to know God.  Find out who He is – loving, merciful, gracious, forgiving.


And in getting to know God, you will figure out who you are.


You are not defined by a boyfriend.

You are not defined by what you have done.

You are not defined by other people’s expectations.

You are not defined by the stuff you have.

You are not defined by your job, your house, or your church.

You are not defined by the world.

You are not defined by society’s standards.


You are defined by God.

He says you are poetry in motion, His masterpiece (Ephesians 2:10).

He says you are a princess chosen specifically by Him (1 Peter 2:9).

He says you are “wonderfully made” according to His unique design (Psalm 139:14).

He says you have a great future ahead of you (Jeremiah 29:11).

He says you are clothed with honor (Proverbs 31:25).

He says you are a new person not held back by the past (2 Corinthians 5:17).

He says you are completely forgiven (Colossians 2:13, Ephesians 1:7).

He says you are blessed (Ephesians 1:3).

He says He sees you as precious (Isaiah 43:4).

He says He knows your name (Isaiah 43:1).

He says He knows you down to the smallest details (Matthew 10:30).

He says you can always come to Him (Matthew 11:28, Hebrews 4:16).


God knows you and loves you.  He has great plans for your life.  He turned Saul the Christian hater around into the apostle Paul, who went on to impact the nations around him with an influence that is still active today.  He redeemed Peter after he denied Him and gave him the leadership of the new Christ movement.   He can do the same with you and use you in big ways.  You can impact the worlds in bold ways.  He will do amazing things for you, in you, and through you.


So here is my hope – that God gets a hold of you and fills your heart with all these truths.  That you search for God with an unrelenting passion and an incomparable hope.


Because you will experience a lot of things in your life.  People will come into your life.  People will walk out of your life.  And no matter what happens, God will be in control.  God will have a plan.  God will use all your experiences to make you a better person.  He will redeem your tears, which are healthy since they cleanse you of hurt feelings and negative emotions.  He will encourage your smile, which will draw other people to His love.  He will embrace you with love, so you always feel secure and confident of your value.


God has already showered you with a lot of blessings.  He has given you a loving family and friends to support you.  He has given you God-fearing parents who love you and encourage you and pray for you.  Don’t take any of them for granted.  For God will show you His love through these people and shower His grace on you through these relationships.


So please don’t ever limit yourself.  You can be more and do more than you think possible, because God will be with you (Ephesians 3:20).  Please don’t ever doubt God’s love.  It is real and it never runs out.


So here would be my prayer for you:

May you embrace His grace.

May you dive into His love.

May you relish His redemption.

May you find freedom in His forgiveness.


And as you do, God will show up and show out.  Because “God is able to make all grace abound toward you, that you, always having all sufficiency in all things, may have an abundance for every good work.”  (2 Corinthians 9:8)


So in all you do, consider God.  And you will never go wrong.


Marie Fremin.  6/28-29/16.

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s